I still remember how I was back when I was suicidal. I remember telling my mother that what I had done was selfish. After all, is that not usually the case when it comes to someone who suicides?
â€œYou did not think about us!â€
â€œYou did not think about the lives youâ€™d be affecting!â€
Looking back thoughâ€¦ was it really selfish in my case?
The thing wasâ€¦ I thought about those in my life a lot that point in time. In truth, I thought I was doing them a favor. My mom likely would have said it was a twisted sort of logic. It is logic to the thinker and on some levels to others, but it is completely illogical on the whole. At the time the act was of good intentions, which I guess is why the V-Tech guyâ€™s ramblings seemed to make an odd sort of sense to me.
I had seen my parentsâ€™ lives. I had seen what disappointments my siblings were. I had seen the stress, financial issues and all sorts of lovely things. Then there was me (mentally ill and all that junk) who would repeat the process and make their lives even harder.
By then I did not really have any friends. There was Kyle, but around that time he moved. I doubted my lack of presence would affect his life greatly. After all, from what I had seen of life and deathâ€¦ people will mourn for a while, but soon enough, it stops. They move on and almost seem to forget.
Yeah. That is why I went on with it. I did not think Iâ€™d be missed. There would be mourning for a time, but Iâ€™d be forgotten soon enough.
My parents would have one less kid to worry about, thus less on the finances and emotional rants. They would not have a mentally screwed idiot to deal with. There would be no more having to find me head doctors or pay for medication. Theyâ€™d have one less thing to be helpless about.
I also remember feeling really bad when my father turned his office into a room for me after I slept on the couch for about two years. It was his office. It was his refuge. He did not need to give it to me. He needed an escape more than I did, I believe.
Why am I talking about an office? I had sent Shred an email a bit after I gulped down all my meds. It was a sort of will. In it I mentioned my dad getting his office back.
So, I wonderâ€¦ were all those thoughts really selfish? Who knowsâ€¦ perhaps there was an underlying selfishness?
I know what helped lead into such a decision. Some would assume it was to stop the pain. It was to gain control. Shit like that. The thing was that did not really come to mind with me.
I thinkâ€¦ back then, I lacked most of my soul. I mean, even after I took the meds, I did not regret. I just hugged my parents good night so it could not be said that they never got a goodbye. It was something of a comfort. Often one reads that once a person dies, the person left behinds regrets not giving the deceased a hug when they could have during the last time they saw each other. Therefore, I bid them farewell with a hug and the words â€œI love youâ€. I remember lying down and I had my cat near me. I still did not regret. I just waited.
So, what does this have to do with the lacking of a soul? I think it is the soul that keeps a person living. I was already dying in that department. How did I know that? I think I just knew.
I still wonder this. It is how I saw life at the time. â€œClockworkâ€, â€œdollâ€, â€œmusic boxâ€… I was life without a soul. I saw my life to be that way. It was like I was a robot, doll, puppet, or maybe a zombie even.
Iâ€™d wake up, eat, go to school, do work, maybe eat lunch, work more, got home, do more work, eat, shower and go to sleep. The next day would be the same. The weeks would be the same. The months and eventually the yearsâ€¦ it was all like clockwork. What was the point then? If that was my life, what was the point? The cycle would carry on and then I would die.
Some people looking for meaning in life, some try to leave behind a sort of legacyâ€¦ the thing is, nothing lasts forever. Look at history. Look at the Bible. Archeologists will dig up so much, and yet it is only a handful of the different time periods they stumble upon. Recorded texts are translated into different languages and lose some of their meanings or are overall edited until they no longer resemble what they once were. Historians look back, but they only get to the surfaceâ€¦ Iâ€™m supposed to give a damn about leaving behind something that can be warped over time if it even lasts? Right.
Well, what about the people who know me? Eternal life if anything is achieved by living in the hearts and memories of others. That is just it though. Those are memories. Even more, they are memories created from the views of other people. After all, what is real when people will remember things about you that you do not even remember yourself? Most of all, if you do not even know who you are, you hide away your self, and all the jazzâ€¦ Then the only memory others have is a lie.
Ashes to ashes. Dust to dust.
What did I have to share? The world through my glasses was just an inevitable void. What was the point in living when inside you are dead? It seemed very much like being a vegetable without anyone even knowing. That in itself is even more patheticâ€¦ to know your existence is all based on just your physical presence.
Soâ€¦ I have to sayâ€¦ when I found myself still alive in the hospitalâ€¦ I still did not regret the suicide attempt. I did learn something from it though. I did find regret from it though. What was it?
I learned I apparently mattered to my parents.
I regretted that they ended up hurting because of it.
I never meant to hurt them. That was the last thing on my mindâ€¦ that it would hurt them so much.
I wonder if that is what makes life preciousâ€¦ not knowing how others affect you, but how you affect them. I did not know. I know now. I do not think I quite understand even after all this time, but I think Iâ€™m getting there. Now that I know, I silently promised Iâ€™d never put either of them through that again.
Still thoughâ€¦ I cannot help but questionâ€¦ were my reasons at the time actually selfish? I really donâ€™t know.
A day after writing the above, I relayed it a bit to my mother. After doing my best at explaining off the top of my head, I asked her if I was being selfish. Alas, she never gave a clear answer. All I did find out was that the talk made her sad. I wondered if it was because of my thought process is the way it is and she would not be able to change it or my inability to understand emotions like most people. It seems that she was sad by my words because of how she could have lost me.
The sad/pathetic thing is that I do not really get that in any way other than logically. That leads to the other things noted. She said it was likely due to my schizoid sideâ€¦ or perhaps a bit from the Aspergers evenâ€¦ Maybe it is both or the little of one and mainly the other. I can only take her word for it.
One might question, â€œJeez! Does this person have any emotions at all? Does this idiot even care about the parents mentioned in this journal?â€
Iâ€™d have to say, I do on both of those accounts. While I am uncertain about many things, I know I care about my parents. Heck, if I worry about anything it is them. Howeverâ€¦ There are just things I do not process correctly if at all.
In the conversation, there came the mentioning of giving and taking. My mom mentioned something about me feeling guilt being the reason. I noted it was perhaps a small part, but it certainly was not the core reason. I think it can be established that the guilt part was the belief of being a burden to my parents.
Mom saidâ€¦ that I took less than any of my siblings. The thing she asserted thoughâ€¦ was that I gave more than I realized. Apparently I still donâ€™t realize. Iâ€™m sure she gave something of an example, but it did not compute apparently.
All I know is that not long after that noting, I remarked that in an alternate universe, where I had died rather than livedâ€¦ she never would have known what she was missing to begin with and would not have mourned the loss since it would not have been there to begin with.
I tried explaining the clockwork, which is something I have noted to her many times when depressions hit, and the soul being dead. She asked me if I thought my soul was dead back then. I told her it had been dying. It had not died completelyâ€¦ It had been wasting away, I believe.
After all, when there is no will, no strive, no interest in lifeâ€¦ When not even your instincts care to save the bodyâ€¦ How is there a soul? Looking at my state at the timeâ€¦ I think it was dying. I think what it functioned on was anger and pain. Even moreâ€¦ I believe that is what helped weaken it. A flame will eventually burn itself out. I think that was my soulâ€¦ just burning outâ€¦
I thought I saw my soul once evenâ€¦ in a human shape that was deep within myself. Iâ€™ve described the scenario before. In fact, I think I told my mom about it. I doubt she remembers though. I wrote it out to keep it lucid should I forget it over time.
â€œIt was nice to be alone in her solitude. Turning on a soft light she sighed and let her mind just stop. The light was warm.
A cold sensation overcame her body. She couldn’t see. Their blinding black depths were as if her eyes, themselves, had gotten lost in the darkness. A decayed scent entered her senses and she was in a dark and gloomy foreign place. The place reeked of the smell of wet fungus. A specter of dim light could be seen lazily scattered here and there. It was so dim you’d think the light itself was terrified to trespass in this depressing dwelling.
Where was she? And how did she come to such an ominous place? She looked about troubled. Stepping forward she decided to see if there was a way out of this dungeon-like wretchedness. But as her walking progressed a sound could be heard. Someone was in there with her. The shallow breaths were evident.
Her eyes finally focused to the badly lit place and it was before her she saw a figure hanging limply. The person’s wrists were bound together in tight shackles that cut through the raw skin. From them the, she assumed to be, man was suspended up vertically. Hanging there was a man unlike any she had seen before dangling motionless.
He was a skeleton with how his skin was thinly stretched forcefully over his bones. His whole body was so thin and delicate it was appalling to look at. He had not seen the light of day for a long time for his skin had a gray-green tint. His black hair was already streaked with silver strands. His head hung down to where his chin touched his chest so she had no clue to who this poor man was. Advancing closer she looked at him with pity.
Edging closer she was surprised when the stranger swiftly lifted his head and looked up at her. It was not a man who had been imprisoned there, but a woman. And it was not just any woman. Her eyes didn’t see the sunken cheeks or the tightly expanded skin that covered the skull-like face. The dark woman was paralyzed mind and body at the sight she beheld. What she saw were the unearthly eyes that stared deep into her own. No, it was not just any woman… It was herself!
She couldn’t breathe! Jerking forward she sat completely upright in her chair. Her chest heaved up and down anxiously and her whole body was shaking like a leaf in a deadening autumn. After some minutes passed she finally managed to regain control and calmed her trembling form down.
What the hell had happened? She was still taking long deep breaths but the shaking had finally ceased. Her hands roughly kept rubbing up and down her tense arms. Finally calm she experienced a few shudders but all in all she was out of her shock.
‘You are broken…’
Her eyes widened. Where did that come from? Furrowing her brow she sighed.
Shaking her head a bit she arose from her seat. She was back in her room with the soft light of the small lamp. But what was that? She hadn’t fallen asleep. She didn’t go unconscious… It couldn’t have been a nightmare. A vision? No, couldn’t have been. The place was real. She felt, smelt, heard, tasted, and saw it. But… she hadn’t even left her room… Had she?â€
I probably slipped into a dream in all logics, but at the time it was too real for me to be certain of the differentiations. Also my psyche might have been crazed enough no longer tell what was â€œrealâ€ and what â€œwasnâ€™tâ€.
That was how it happened thoughâ€¦ even when I close my eyes I can still see the dim light filtering and the musty air dancing about across oneâ€™s vision because it was so dust riddenâ€¦ almostâ€¦ fog like.
I remember how my heart was racing when I was no longer in that place, how my brow was covered in sweat and I was breathing harshly as though I had run a marathon. I had been shaking uncontrollably for what seemed like foreverâ€¦
And as noted in the recollectionâ€¦ when I was about to leave the roomâ€¦ that phrase went through my head without consciousness. It was like hearing someone else say itâ€¦ it was never expectedâ€¦ Solemn.
I felt damn certain I had met my soul back then. It was in there, in me, somewhereâ€¦ so deep and darkâ€¦ a basement where things were hidden to die, rot and diminishâ€¦
Yet somehow, I was there for a moment in timeâ€¦ and my soul was silently screaming.
Sigh. Then a few more years passed. My soul stopped screaming. It eventually stopped caring too. With it left the internal wiring that makes the body fight to liveâ€¦ survival.
With no soulâ€¦ why does the body need to live?
I think that is why I felt no concern when I took the pills. I think that is why I did not feel regret when they were in my system. I guess that is why I could lay down so calmly. I guess that is why I was not struck with a sudden change in perspective when I woke up and found myself to still be alive.
Well, even though I am pretty sure I still consider that to be logicalâ€¦ Iâ€™m in a different scenario now. For one, my soul is not dead. It is not dying. I donâ€™t think it needs life support. It still does not really strive or anythingâ€¦ but if it ever did, I would probably be freaked out anyway. Secondly, for some reason I matter to some people. I still think they would get over me in due time if I ever died, butâ€¦ knowing they want me here makes the difference. Back then, I have to admitâ€¦ I really did not think they would need meâ€¦ I really didnâ€™t.
Hehâ€¦ I tell them I am stupid. That is just another example to prove it. Perhaps obtuse would work?